Today is my last day as a 25 year old. Goodbye to my joked-about-but-actually-serious quarter-life crisis age!
For anyone who is older, let me allow you to reminisce on how it was to be a 25 year old. And for anyone who is slowly approaching this age, let me allow you to have some clear insight of what will come about in your near future.25 is an interesting age and is an age where things still don’t quite click in your head. You are still confused as heck of what you want to do with your life and hence the “quarter life crisis” joke, but I believe it is the tipping age. It’s the age where you get to really find out who you really are as long as you keep a curious mindset. You get to find out what you want to tolerate and what you no longer will allow to be part of your life. You learn to respect yourself immensely. You learn that you have a voice and you should use it. You also learn that you still know nothing at all. Being a 25 year old is confusing, challenging and an age where you still have so many questions about life. Like they say, every age has its beauty and the beauty of being a 25 year old is finally realizing that you get to create your life going forward and that your past doesn’t have to come along with you.
As today is the day I get to say goodbye to this age and say hello to a new chapter of my life, I wanted to share with you guys 25 things I’ve learned along the way. I have always been someone who questioned life, questioned my purpose, questioned what anything really means, had unfortunate events happen, had good things happen, had lessons that were hard to learn and events that were out of my control. Basically, I’ve had life happen to me. Life throws curveballs at you and you have to be ready. One thing that always echoes in my head is what my mom has always told me, which is; you have to be tougher than life. You can’t be scared of life, it has to be scared of you. With anything that I do, I have always taken action with those words in mind, and have always strived to be stronger, tougher and fearless because….. life is tough and we all could use a helmet.
Here are 25 Things I Have Learned In 25 Years:
1. Nobody owes you anything; not your parents, not your siblings, not your friends – you have to fight for what you want and what you believe in and go out there and give it all you got. You never want to look back and regret life due to laziness or because you spent too much time blaming your circumstance on others.
2. Not everyone has your best intentions and that is okay. Be strong enough to walk away from things and people who no longer serve you well without burning any bridges.
3. Be yourself. This is so important. There is only one you and do not ever apologize for being you. When you become your truest self is when you start to enjoy your life.
4. Be accepting of others. Be thoughtful and kind to others’ feelings and words, you don’t know their story and you don’t know what they are dealing with. Being kind will cost you nothing.
5. It is better to give than to receive. Help others without expecting anything in return because our souls naturally thrive on giving and in return this will help you tremendously.
6. Smile. There is so many things and reasons to be happy. Don’t let situations bring you down and always change your perspective because life is truly too short to fret over the little things. Time will pass either way.
7. Be there for people. You may not always have the right words to say but your presence sometimes is enough and all that is needed.
8. Don’t keep your thoughts and ideas to yourself, share it with the world. You never know who is in desperate need of what you have to say and give back to this world.
9. Success is different for everyone. Your path and someone else is path is completely different. Don’t worry about what age you start something, just start. Enjoy the process and don’t forget to be nice to people who are helping you along the way.
10. Forgive. Don’t hold grudges. It’s not good for your soul and everyone has a different story don’t judge it too much and move on.
11. To have a friend, you have to be a friend. Make an effort to be there for your friends, which sometimes means doing things you really don’t want to do.
12. Moments, smiles, memories, hugs, laughter, love…. all free and all you really need to feel true happiness.
13. Follow your passion. One thing I’ve learned as a finance major is that the biggest risks reap the biggest results, so take that risk, you never know what awaits at the end of your fear. Just go for it and never look back.
14. Not everyone is going to like you, you can’t please everyone, and you don’t need to. Know who you are and be confident that you are enough.
15. Talk to yourself nicely every day. Self-pep talk is so important to improve your mood. Tell yourself every day that you are a badass and that you can handle anything.
16. Happiness isn’t coming, it’s here now in the present moment. Live each day mindfully and learn to love each moment. Stop looking at your phone and talk to your parents more often, appreciate your siblings and always give your full attention to the person you are talking to. You never know what you miss out on by living in auto mode.
17. You can get addicted to almost anything in life. Things, people, drugs, food, hate, bad habits.
18. Spending time in a different culture changes your perspective about your life, opens your heart and allows you to feel so small in this big planet. Go out there and see how the rest of the world lives and know that any of your problems are so minor.
19. Be grateful – it’s the key of life. Thank the universe every single day for everything it has given you and consistently have a grateful heart for all your gifts.
20. When your 5-year plan doesn’t work, don’t see it as a failure, see it as a path that was not meant for you. Trust that the universe has your back and better things are coming your way.
21. The best way to change the world is to change yourself. Take care of you every single day. Do something to grow your mind and reinvent yourself every day because only when you are at your best self is when you can give back.
22. Don’t be average. Thrive onto what you are meant to do. On your death bed, you will not remember your failures as they were your learning curves, but you will remember all your contributions to this world.
23. You are the creator of your own life. No one can sing your song, no one can write what you write, and no one can be who you are. No one else can think or feel or experience this life for you so experience it to the fullest. Don’t get stuck in your negative feelings and unleash your inner child.
24. Don’t let other’s write your story and don’t let society tell you who to be. Define your own version of what this life should be like for your own self.
25. Last and foremost, YOU ARE NOT YOUR PAST. Your childhood matters, but learn from it and don’t let it control your adulthood. Things that happened in your past are out of your control and do not define how your future will be. You get a chance to write your own life and experience it exactly how you want to. So, write your story well and let go of the past.
That is all! As I am getting older, I am starting to realize I am becoming more of who I was as a kid – which is fearless, “daredevil” (meaning of my name), confident and genuinely happy because life has many reasons for all of us to be happy, you just have to notice the little things and be grateful for it. 🙂
Thank you for reading and let me know in the comments below what is one significant thing you’ve learned in your life.
Until next time,
“Challenges are what make life interesting; overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” – Joshue J. Marine