How to Stop Dreading Monday's With Mindfulness

How to Stop Dreading Mondays With Mindfulness

I haven’t met many people who actually like Mondays, but I do know it is possible…

Many people don’t enjoy Mondays due to not being satisfied with their job. But it is possible to love Mondays and it usually happens when you find your passion; when you follow what’s within you and your souls calling.

For me, I’m in the midst of my search. I believe finding your purpose is a similar path as someone going in search to find a treasure. You get clues each day of what it is that you’re meant to do and if you listen to the cues and your intuition, you will always be directed towards it.

Do I believe everyone is here with a purpose? Yes, 100%. Now, that doesn’t mean we all follow our purpose. Everyone’s purpose isn’t extravagant either – it could be as simple as being an amazing mother. Or it could be the best doorman; full of enthusiasm and cheerfulness. 

How to Stop Dreading Monday's With Mindfulness

The other day, I really hit a point in my life where it really sank in that we only have one life to live. I understand others have different beliefs, but regardless, no one is guaranteed to live this same exact life. None of us also know for sure what waits for us at death. The point I am trying to make is, stop dreading each moment. In my discovery, it almost felt like I’ve gotten closer to the idea of the purpose of life, which is that we have a purpose to make a difference for the next generation ahead. It’s our duty.

You may be bitter in believing any of this because you may not love your job and you may not be in a good place mentally. I get it. It’s not easy and it’s not a good place to be mentally. And switching jobs isn’t as easy where you can just quit and figure out what to do. Not many of us are at that financial state to do so. 

Now, this doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy the process and no reason not to. I believe we should really enjoy each moment. I also believe tribulations make us who we are and believe each path we were given has a purpose in the big picture. With each tribulation, you get closer to who you are meant to be, so, why not have a positive attitude during the process?

Essentially, the ideal time you would stop dreading Mondays is when you start doing the things you are most passionate about. But you may not know what that is yet, and you may not know how to get there if you do know what your passion is. For the time being, if you are at a job that is draining and not motivating, take a step back and write a plan. It’s important to take action each day that will eventually take you out of that state.

You can do this type of practice with any uncomfortable situation, it doesn’t have to be a just on a Monday. Maybe you like your job, but there are other parts or times in your life where you are not enjoying, and you can implement this practice during those times.

To be clear, practicing mindfulness while experiencing uncomfortable situations does not necessarily make it go away, but it does allow you to better cope with the situation and make the experience easier to tackle.

Mindfulness /ˈmīn(d)f(ə)lnəs/ noun a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.

That is the modern day dictionary.com’s explanation on it and they hit it spot on. Mindfulness is a practice in which you become more aware of your surroundings, you notice things you normally would ignore and essentially, it’s a practice to get yourself out of the automatic way of thinking. We are not meant to be like robots and yet we easily act like it in most of our daily routines, which then leads us to miss the important things life has to offer.

Currently, I am reading the Alchemist and it reminds me of the part where the boy is told to hold a spoon full of oil and concentrate only on that spoon without letting anything spill, and while doing this he misses out on all his beautiful surroundings. Not practicing mindfulness is like this. Not being mindful of your surroundings and the little miracles of everyday living is missing out on the beauty of living. So, although, you may be in a position where you are not loving what you are doing, I believe you can always turn it around by practicing mindfulness and being positive that things will change. Of course, you must work through it so that your situation does change, but there is no reason to be miserable during the process. Remember, you only have one life to live – don’t let it go to waste. Everything about this life is extra-ordinary and beautiful – all you have to do is become one with it. 

Remembering that your work doesn’t have to take up all your life is one step closer to stop dreading Mondays or any other day. You can make anything else become the dominant part of your day by focusing on that one activity. For example, for me I love taking cycling or boxing classes, which I do in the mornings before work. I focus on how good it made me feel, how fun it was, how strong it made me feel all day instead of focusing on the bad parts of my day. You can also do it vice versa where you can hype yourself up for your class and how you will be taking care of your body at the end of the day.

Throughout my day, I tune into the little things that happen, such as focusing on someone’s face while they are talking to me or focusing on a song I’m listening to or just noticing my surroundings. It may seem so minuscular of just focusing on one thing, but it really is the small things that make the biggest impact. Mindfulness is like this in that way that every small thing you focus on allows you to be more in tune with your body and soul. It takes in all the small things that happen to you and allows you to appreciate them immensely.

When I discovered mindfulness, I felt like I discovered the key of life. It’s not an easy practice, but with all things, it takes time and effort. I use an app called Chill, where it reminds you to be mindful throughout the day. You can also view your mindfulness quote each day and I think it’s a nice little practice in your day. 

How to Stop Dreading Monday's With Mindfulness

Here are some other things you can do to ensure you won’t dread Monday’s:

  1. Go to the gym first thing in the morning
  2. Wear something that makes you confident and happy
  3. Write one goal you would like to accomplish for that day
  4. Meditate
  5. Laugh. Call your mom/dad/sister/brother or best friend and just laugh it out – train your mind to be happy on Mondays
  6. Health = your wealth. Feed your body nourishing foods and take good care of your temple
  7. Have a gratitude journal. Write down everything your grateful for each morning. It may take a while until the success of this will show, but just be patient and you will notice your heart is growing to be more grateful each day, which in turn will make you more positive and allow you to manifest more of what you want

Until you reach the moment where Mondays become an ordinary day where you can fully enjoy it, try to do this routine to improve your week. Always start on a strong note, because life no matter what will catch you on the blind side. And like my mother always says, be stronger than life and you’ll be guaranteed success!

Finally, always remember, progress = happiness, so every small little win you have, don’t forget to celebrate it! Every time you have a good feeling, stay there for a little longer than you normally would. Feel it out and with your mindfulness practice really notice how it makes you feel. When you prolong a good feeling, it will allow you to feel and stay more positive throughout the day, but also will allow you to look back at it and remind yourself of the experience.

Hope you can implement mindfulness to your days and to your Mondays and realize how wonderful little things can really be. We are not guaranteed any of this, but we are given this gift and it’s important to enjoy it, to not take ourselves too seriously and strive to make it a better place for all because we are all in it together.

Until next time,

Ozzy

Disclaimer: For full disclosure of my blog, please read this.

“Do not seek Enlightenment by rejecting your senses and thoughts. When you are neither attached to nor detached from them, when you are neither abiding with nor clinging to them, then you enjoy perfect unobstructed freedom.” – Huang-po

 

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5 things to make you happy

5 Things That Make Me Happy

Happiness: highly sought out emotion by humankind, but inevitably seen as complicated and not always attainable.

Sometimes all it takes to feel happiness is to change your perspective. Happiness, like many other things in life, is a process of small wins. You won’t always feel good everyday, but you can choose how you feel everyday. I hope in reading this, it will change your perspective and allow you to go do the things that make you happy, which could be as simple as eating your favorite food or drinking tea and reading. However way that may be for you, I hope you live a life full of magic and hope you look at your life with awe because all of what we have is truly amazing.

5 Things That Make Me Happy

I ran into this post from a fellow blogger and decided to give it a shot as well. It’s always fun to read about what makes others happy and can put you in a positive mood, so in the end it’s a win-win situation! And what better way to celebrate what makes you happy than on a day dedicated to love…. Happy Valentine’s Day, everyone!

5 Things That Make Me Happy:

  1. Watching Makeup Tutorials

If you couldn’t guess by now, I love makeup. I’ve loved it since I was in middle school. I would always dress up and play with makeup because it always put me in a better mood. Makeup is fun, exciting and it’s washable. To me, makeup is like playing with art and making your own art. It doesn’t matter if you are good or not, it’s a form of therapy in some way. Everything in the world or in my life could be going wrong or could be a mess, but makeup is always there to cheer me up and to remind me not to take life so seriously!

“There is no path to happiness; happiness is the path.” – Buddha

    2. TurnStyle Cycling

I am addicted to this, and luckily for me, it’s a good addiction to have. I have been going about once a week and it seems to be the perfect amount for me in conjunction with my gym. I love this because it allows me to feel strong, and gets rid of any limitations I have on myself. I love the songs they play and love how intense it is. I always give it all I got…and come out of it so sweaty! It’s like a little mind game I play on myself to prove that I am stronger than I believe. Who doesn’t want to feel strong? I come out of it so happy and eagerly looking forward to going back to this studio each time.

“The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less.” – Socrates

    3. Writing

I love writing, if you couldn’t tell by now. But I especially like writing in my journal. I like to write more about positive things and whenever I finish writing it’s like all my problems and anxiety go away. It’s a quick 10 minute breather to be mindful and to focus on one thing. I’ve been journaling since I was in the 4th grade and I am excited that one day my kids will be able to go on my life journey with me by reading everything I’ve written. If you haven’t tried journaling I highly suggest it. All you have to do is just write. It could be about anything that’s on your mind; just grab a pen and paper and start writing about the first thing that pops up on your mind!

“Don’t waste a minute not feeling happy. If one door closes, run to the next window – or break down a door.” – Brooke Shields

    4. Reading

Reading takes you to another world, it allows you to forget about all your troubles and focus on one thing. Both writing and reading is a form of meditation. You could have a terrible day, or could be in an angry mood, but once you start reading everything goes away. It also grows your mind, and anything that allows you to grow, allows you to live out this life a little longer, I believe. I always learn something new with each book I read and feel that I become a better version of myself.

“Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds to be.” – Abraham Lincoln

    5. Music

Lastly, this one is so crucial for me. Music goes as far back as I can remember. I mean I’m sure everyone enjoys listening to music, but for me, it has always had a deeper meaning. It allowed me to get through times when I was sad, angry, disappointed, disgusted – really any emotions I’ve had, I was able to change it with music. Growing up, if anything was going wrong in my life, I would just listen to music and forget about it. Music takes me to another place and allows me to be imaginative and creative in my thoughts.

“Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it, the more it will elude you.” – Henry David Thoreau

Those are the 5 important things that always put me in a better mood or allow me to be calm and mindful.

Would love to know what helps you feel your happiest self, let me know in the comments below!

With love & gratitude,

Ozzy

Disclaimer: For full disclosure of my blog, please read this.

“There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.” – George Sand

 

Reading list for 2018

Top Recommended Books & My 2018 Reading List

One of my goals for this year is to read 2 books each month, so by 2019 I will have read 24 books. I believe this goal is attainable and realistic.

Last year, my goal was to read 50 books, which I did not get anywhere close to that. Why? Because my goal was unrealistic (not everyone can be Bill Gates), and not achievable from the start. That is not to say that I cannot achieve that goal maybe in a year or two, but I just need to build momentum first.

If you want a list of my all-time favorite self-help books, you can check out this post here.

2017 was a good year for some amazing books, but there are some I haven’t finished yet. I tend to read about 3 books at a time. Who else does that? I like to go from one book to another depending on my mood. At the end of the day, reading should be enjoyable. It’s kind of like watching TV; you tune into the show or movie you are in the mood to watch, so I tend to do the same with books.

Here is My 2017 Recommended Books:

  1. Zero to One: Notes on Startups, Or How to Build the Future by Peter Thiel with Blake Masters

This was the last book I read in 2017, and was a great choice. This is written by the co-founder of PayPal and advises on anyone who is looking to start a business, although, if that is not your goal, it’s also a great read for anyone interested in stories of many companies and powerful people like Elon Musk, Bill Gates and Jeff Bezos. This book was very well written and super insightful. It’s one of those books that you can look back on and reread any parts that are helpful. It’s an easy and quick read, which is also great for anyone that doesn’t want to commit to a long book. This is also a great book to inspire you to keep the “American Dream” going as Peter shows you that there is still so much we have yet to discover.

  1. The $100 Start-Up By Chris Guillebeau

This is a great book for anyone who is looking to travel and work remotely by building a startup with a low cost. It’s also inspiring to know that you don’t need millions of dollars to start a company. I really enjoyed this one to get some ideas on how I could be creative myself.

  1. The Four-Hour Work Week by Tim Ferris

This is a great book for anyone in the work field and who wants to maximize their efficiency in their work and how to be effective every single hour of the day. We don’t realize how much time gets wasted in the day by minuscular things. Tim shows you how you can fix the process and shorten the time for projects or meetings. He talks about how to be productive and how you can migrate your work or outsource unto others. There was even a story of how one guy outsourced all his work to an assistant in India, where she would even reply to his wife. Crazy, I know. This is also a great book for anyone who owns their own blog/business/start-up. It teaches and gives you so many resources. This book is raved about for all the good reasons.

  1. The Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey

If one of your goals this year is to get out of debt, or to be better with your money, then Dave Ramsey is your guy. This book shows you how to quickly, but realistically, get out of debt. If you have student loans – this is your book. If you don’t, you still would benefit from this book tremendously as it shows you how any average American can become a millionaire by saving and putting their money in the right investments. It was quite eye opening for me.

  1. Boost Your Brain Power in 60 Seconds by Michelle Schoffro Cook

On the contrary, if one of your goals is to be healthier, this book is for you. It shows you how we can prevent many diseases by the foods we eat, how each food effects our body and what is best to feed our brain for optimal use. I enjoyed this book very much and it’s still by my bedside for as a reference for any of the concepts.

  1. Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert

Lastly, if you read any book from my list, make sure it’s this one. This one wins my favorite for 2017. I have it on my Audible app, and re-listen to it whenever I feel that I need to hear Elizabeth’s words again. If her name sounds familiar to you, it’s because it is, she is the author of Eat, Pray, Love. This was beautifully written and the audible is narrated by Elizabeth herself, which is so calming to listen to. I absolutely love this book and cannot reiterate how much every creative person needs this book in their life. It shows you concepts of Law of Attraction, talks about how to tackle your fears and how to be the best version of yourself. I read/listened to this book 3 times this year.

List of Books to Read in 2018:

  1. Everybody Lies: Big Data, New Data, and What the Internet Can Tell Us About Who We Really Are by Seth Stephens-Davidowits

This book is about how big corporations, or the government takes all our information and uses it. I quickly became interested in this book after I heard the speech from one of the data analytics, who shared his process of how he helped Trump win office from all the research they did with our data. Facebook is one of the places where a lot of these companies go and I figured it’s time to learn what kind of information is getting used and what they know about who we are.

  1. The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks by Steven Pressfield

I saw Mel Robbins reading and recommending this on her Instagram story, so I figured I’d give it a try. It’s a book about breaking out of your fears and succeeding in your creative space. For anyone that is wanting to create something, but having blockage from your own thoughts, I think this would be a nice book. This book talks about resistance – which deters you from showing up, and not giving it your best.

  1. The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be by Jack Canfield

The author of this is the co-creator of Chicken Soup for the Souls – popular series of books. This is a classic and maybe you guys already know about this. I think this book will be good for me to change my mindset, how to build my mind to be stronger, to persevere and how to be an achiever. So much of success comes from within your mind and I think this will teach me how to have a stronger mind. From my recommendations I’ve received, this seems like a good one to pick up if you are looking to create your dream life.

  1. The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson

This book is a good book if you want to be consistent with your work. It also talks about small wins, which is something I highly value. Seems to be a good book to learn about good work ethics and how to persevere through any work.

  1. Sapiens by Yuval Noah Harari

Brief history of humans – I think it would be interesting to learn more about humans and the history of how we have evolved.

  1. Storyteller’s Secret by Carmine Gallo

This one teaches you how to be a better public speaker, which I believe everyone can benefit from. It’s a skillset you need as an adult and it’s better to be prepared now, then hope you knew more about the topic once an event comes up.

7. The Company of Women by Grace Bonney.

This book interviews a bunch of women entrepreneurs, which I’m sure as a female will be quite inspiring. With so many movements in the few couple of months for women; this year really feels like the year of women – so I’m sure this will be a good read.

8. The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

Lastly, this one is a classic. I’m sure you probably have already read this or it may also be on your reading list. I have yet to read it, and I am excited to see what the rave is all about. I heard that it has the law of attraction embedded in it without being too much.


That is all for all my recommended list and 2018 wish list! If you can tell – I love learning and I find that consistently growing your mind is super important, hence why most of my books are self-help. I find these types of books, personally, are the ones that grow my mind the most. You may be different and that is totally okay.

Let me know in the comments below if you have any recommendations for me!

Thanks for reading and have an amazing day!

xxo,

Ozzy

“I am part of everything that I have read.” – Theodore Roosevelt

Reading list for 2018

Recommended Books & My 2018 Reading List

One of my goals for this year is to read 2 books each month, so by 2019 I will have read 24 books. I believe this goal is attainable and realistic.

Last year, my goal was to read 50 books, which I did not get anywhere close to that. Why? Because my goal was unrealistic (not everyone can be Bill Gates), and not achievable from the start. That is not to say that I cannot achieve that goal maybe in a year or two, but I just need to build momentum first.

If you want a list of my all-time favorite self-help books, you can check out this post here.

2017 was a good year for some amazing books, but there are some I haven’t finished yet. I tend to read about 3 books at a time. Who else does that? I like to go from one book to another depending on my mood. At the end of the day, reading should be enjoyable. It’s kind of like watching TV; you tune into the show or movie you are in the mood to watch, so I tend to do the same with books.

Here is My 2017 Recommended Books:

  1. Zero to One: Notes on Startups, Or How to Build the Future by Peter Thiel with Blake Masters

This was the last book I read in 2017, and was a great choice. This is written by the co-founder of PayPal and advises on anyone who is looking to start a business, although, if that is not your goal, it’s also a great read for anyone interested in stories of many companies and powerful people like Elon Musk, Bill Gates and Jeff Bezos. This book was very well written and super insightful. It’s one of those books that you can look back on and reread any parts that are helpful. It’s an easy and quick read, which is also great for anyone that doesn’t want to commit to a long book. This is also a great book to inspire you to keep the “American Dream” going as Peter shows you that there is still so much we have yet to discover.

  1. The $100 Start-Up By Chris Guillebeau

This is a great book for anyone who is looking to travel and work remotely by building a startup with a low cost. It’s also inspiring to know that you don’t need millions of dollars to start a company. I really enjoyed this one to get some ideas on how I could be creative myself.

  1. The Four-Hour Work Week by Tim Ferris

This is a great book for anyone in the work field and who wants to maximize their efficiency in their work and how to be effective every single hour of the day. We don’t realize how much time gets wasted in the day by minuscular things. Tim shows you how you can fix the process and shorten the time for projects or meetings. He talks about how to be productive and how you can migrate your work or outsource unto others. There was even a story of how one guy outsourced all his work to an assistant in India, where she would even reply to his wife. Crazy, I know. This is also a great book for anyone who owns their own blog/business/start-up. It teaches and gives you so many resources. This book is raved about for all the good reasons.

  1. The Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey

If one of your goals this year is to get out of debt, or to be better with your money, then Dave Ramsey is your guy. This book shows you how to quickly, but realistically, get out of debt. If you have student loans – this is your book. If you don’t, you still would benefit from this book tremendously as it shows you how any average American can become a millionaire by saving and putting their money in the right investments. It was quite eye opening for me.

  1. Boost Your Brain Power in 60 Seconds by Michelle Schoffro Cook

On the contrary, if one of your goals is to be healthier, this book is for you. It shows you how we can prevent many diseases by the foods we eat, how each food effects our body and what is best to feed our brain for optimal use. I enjoyed this book very much and it’s still by my bedside for as a reference for any of the concepts.

  1. Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert

Lastly, if you read any book from my list, make sure it’s this one. This one wins my favorite for 2017. I have it on my Audible app, and re-listen to it whenever I feel that I need to hear Elizabeth’s words again. If her name sounds familiar to you, it’s because it is, she is the author of Eat, Pray, Love. This was beautifully written and the audible is narrated by Elizabeth herself, which is so calming to listen to. I absolutely love this book and cannot reiterate how much every creative person needs this book in their life. It shows you concepts of Law of Attraction, talks about how to tackle your fears and how to be the best version of yourself. I read/listened to this book 3 times this year.

List of Books to Read in 2018:

  1. Everybody Lies: Big Data, New Data, and What the Internet Can Tell Us About Who We Really Are by Seth Stephens-Davidowits

This book is about how big corporations, or the government takes all our information and uses it. I quickly became interested in this book after I heard the speech from one of the data analytics, who shared his process of how he helped Trump win office from all the research they did with our data. Facebook is one of the places where a lot of these companies go and I figured it’s time to learn what kind of information is getting used and what they know about who we are.

  1. The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks by Steven Pressfield

I saw Mel Robbins reading and recommending this on her Instagram story, so I figured I’d give it a try. It’s a book about breaking out of your fears and succeeding in your creative space. For anyone that is wanting to create something, but having blockage from your own thoughts, I think this would be a nice book. This book talks about resistance – which deters you from showing up, and not giving it your best.

  1. The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be by Jack Canfield

The author of this is the co-creator of Chicken Soup for the Souls – popular series of books. This is a classic and maybe you guys already know about this. I think this book will be good for me to change my mindset, how to build my mind to be stronger, to persevere and how to be an achiever. So much of success comes from within your mind and I think this will teach me how to have a stronger mind. From my recommendations I’ve received, this seems like a good one to pick up if you are looking to create your dream life.

  1. The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson

This book is a good book if you want to be consistent with your work. It also talks about small wins, which is something I highly value. Seems to be a good book to learn about good work ethics and how to persevere through any work.

  1. Sapiens by Yuval Noah Harari

Brief history of humans – I think it would be interesting to learn more about humans and the history of how we have evolved.

  1. Storyteller’s Secret by Carmine Gallo

This one teaches you how to be a better public speaker, which I believe everyone can benefit from. It’s a skillset you need as an adult and it’s better to be prepared now, then hope you knew more about the topic once an event comes up.

7. The Company of Women by Grace Bonney.

This book interviews a bunch of women entrepreneurs, which I’m sure as a female will be quite inspiring. With so many movements in the few couple of months for women; this year really feels like the year of women – so I’m sure this will be a good read.

8. The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

Lastly, this one is a classic. I’m sure you probably have already read this or it may also be on your reading list. I have yet to read it, and I am excited to see what the rave is all about. I heard that it has the law of attraction embedded in it without being too much.


That is all for all my recommended list and 2018 wish list! If you can tell – I love learning and I find that consistently growing your mind is super important, hence why most of my books are self-help. I find these types of books, personally, are the ones that grow my mind the most. You may be different and that is totally okay.

Let me know in the comments below if you have any recommendations for me!

Thanks for reading and have an amazing day!

xxo,

Ozzy

Disclaimer: For full disclosure of my blog, please read this.

“I am part of everything that I have read.” – Theodore Roosevelt

Playlist to get over your ex

Soundtrack You Need to Get Over Your Ex

Hey Ladies!

Thought it would be fun to share with you guys my soundtrack for days when I was “Miss Independent”, and listened to this playlist to remind myself that I don’t need a man to make me powerful, strong and to feel good being alone.

For any of you ladies that are struggling to get over your ex or struggling to feel confident while being single – this playlist is for you!

Ladies repeat after me: I DON’T NEED A MAN – I am strong, smart, confident and beautiful all on my own!

Playlist to get over your ex

This playlist that I have here is something I would always listen to at the gym to pump myself up and get me even more excited about being single. Honestly, being single is a beautiful time to get to know yourself better, to become a better version of yourself and truly learn how to be independent and confident. You really don’t need a man to fulfill you or to make you who you are, you can do it all on your own. And when you become the best version of yourself is when you can give back so much more to the relationship.

As it is repeatedly said, you cannot love someone else if you don’t love yourself first. So, ladies (or guys), start to fall in love with yourself – completely and unconditionally because you deserve your own love! I’m sending positive vibes your way and I know that you deserve every ounce of love and affection that is coming your way so soon. Don’t be hard on yourself and know that your time is coming. Everyone has a different timeline; whether that is in terms of success or to finding your other half. In the meantime, enjoy the process and fall in love with your life now!

Here’s the Soundtrack You Need to Get Over Your Ex:

  1. I Don’t Need A Man – The Pussycat Dolls
  2. Raining Men – Rihanna, Nicki Minaj
  3. Ridin’ Solo – Jason Derulo
  4. Woohoo – Christina Aguilera, Nicki Minaj
  5. Upgrade U – Beyoncé
  6. Goodbye – Kristina DeBarge
  7. Do It Like A Dude – Jessie J
  8. Blue Jeans – Jessie James
  9. Girl On Fire – Alicia Keys, Nicki Minaj
  10. Independent Women, Pt. 1 – Destiny’s Child
  11. Dua Lipa – New Rules

I added the last one, which was not originally in my playlist a few years back, but it’s such a good vibe song that I think could help you! Now, go dance around in your PJ’s in your room and have fun with being single and getting to know yourself better. Trust the universe – I know you’re in a good place!

Let me know in the comments below, what songs makes you feel confident, strong and sexy!

Thanks for readings and have an amazing day!

Until next time,

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Disclaimer: For full disclosure of my blog, please read this.

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25 Things I’ve Learned In 25 Years

25 Things I've Learned In 25 Years

Today is my last day as a 25 year old. Goodbye to my joked-about-but-actually-serious quarter-life crisis age!

For anyone who is older, let me allow you to reminisce on how it was to be a 25 year old. And for anyone who is slowly approaching this age, let me allow you to have some clear insight of what will come about in your near future.

25 is an interesting age and is an age where things still don’t quite click in your head. You are still confused as heck of what you want to do with your life and hence the “quarter life crisis” joke, but I believe it is the tipping age. It’s the age where you get to really find out who you really are as long as you keep a curious mindset. You get to find out what you want to tolerate and what you no longer will allow to be part of your life. You learn to respect yourself immensely. You learn that you have a voice and you should use it. You also learn that you still know nothing at all. Being a 25 year old is confusing, challenging and an age where you still have so many questions about life. Like they say, every age has its beauty and the beauty of being a 25 year old is finally realizing that you get to create your life going forward and that your past doesn’t have to come along with you.

As today is the day I get to say goodbye to this age and say hello to a new chapter of my life, I wanted to share with you guys 25 things I’ve learned along the way. I have always been someone who questioned life, questioned my purpose, questioned what anything really means, had unfortunate events happen, had good things happen, had lessons that were hard to learn and events that were out of my control. Basically, I’ve had life happen to me. Life throws curveballs at you and you have to be ready. One thing that always echoes in my head is what my mom has always told me, which is; you have to be tougher than life. You can’t be scared of life, it has to be scared of you. With anything that I do, I have always taken action with those words in mind, and have always strived to be stronger, tougher and fearless because….. life is tough and we all could use a helmet.

Here are 25 Things I Have Learned In 25 Years:

1.       Nobody owes you anything; not your parents, not your siblings, not your friends – you have to fight for what you want and what you believe in and go out there and give it all you got. You never want to look back and regret life due to laziness or because you spent too much time blaming your circumstance on others.

2.       Not everyone has your best intentions and that is okay. Be strong enough to walk away from things and people who no longer serve you well without burning any bridges.

3.       Be yourself. This is so important. There is only one you and do not ever apologize for being you. When you become your truest self is when you start to enjoy your life. 

4.       Be accepting of others. Be thoughtful and kind to others’ feelings and words, you don’t know their story and you don’t know what they are dealing with. Being kind will cost you nothing.

5.       It is better to give than to receive. Help others without expecting anything in return because our souls naturally thrive on giving and in return this will help you tremendously.

6.       Smile. There is so many things and reasons to be happy. Don’t let situations bring you down and always change your perspective because life is truly too short to fret over the little things. Time will pass either way.

7.       Be there for people. You may not always have the right words to say but your presence sometimes is enough and all that is needed.

8.       Don’t keep your thoughts and ideas to yourself, share it with the world. You never know who is in desperate need of what you have to say and give back to this world.

9.       Success is different for everyone. Your path and someone else is path is completely different. Don’t worry about what age you start something, just start. Enjoy the process and don’t forget to be nice to people who are helping you along the way.

10.   Forgive. Don’t hold grudges. It’s not good for your soul and everyone has a different story don’t judge it too much and move on.

11.   To have a friend, you have to be a friend. Make an effort to be there for your friends, which sometimes means doing things you really don’t want to do.

12.   Moments, smiles, memories, hugs, laughter, love…. all free and all you really need to feel true happiness.

13.   Follow your passion. One thing I’ve learned as a finance major is that the biggest risks reap the biggest results, so take that risk, you never know what awaits at the end of your fear. Just go for it and never look back.

14.   Not everyone is going to like you, you can’t please everyone, and you don’t need to. Know who you are and be confident that you are enough.

15.   Talk to yourself nicely every day. Self-pep talk is so important to improve your mood. Tell yourself every day that you are a badass and that you can handle anything.

16.   Happiness isn’t coming, it’s here now in the present moment. Live each day mindfully and learn to love each moment. Stop looking at your phone and talk to your parents more often, appreciate your siblings and always give your full attention to the person you are talking to. You never know what you miss out on by living in auto mode.

17.   You can get addicted to almost anything in life. Things, people, drugs, food, hate, bad habits.

18.   Spending time in a different culture changes your perspective about your life, opens your heart and allows you to feel so small in this big planet. Go out there and see how the rest of the world lives and know that any of your problems are so minor.

19.   Be grateful – it’s the key of life. Thank the universe every single day for everything it has given you and consistently have a grateful heart for all your gifts.

20.   When your 5-year plan doesn’t work, don’t see it as a failure, see it as a path that was not meant for you. Trust that the universe has your back and better things are coming your way.

21.   The best way to change the world is to change yourself. Take care of you every single day. Do something to grow your mind and reinvent yourself every day because only when you are at your best self is when you can give back.

22.   Don’t be average.  Thrive onto what you are meant to do. On your death bed, you will not remember your failures as they were your learning curves, but you will remember all your contributions to this world.

23.   You are the creator of your own life. No one can sing your song, no one can write what you write, and no one can be who you are. No one else can think or feel or experience this life for you so experience it to the fullest. Don’t get stuck in your negative feelings and unleash your inner child.

24.   Don’t let other’s write your story and don’t let society tell you who to be. Define your own version of what this life should be like for your own self. 

25.   Last and foremost, YOU ARE NOT YOUR PAST. Your childhood matters, but learn from it and don’t let it control your adulthood. Things that happened in your past are out of your control and do not define how your future will be. You get a chance to write your own life and experience it exactly how you want to. So, write your story well and let go of the past.

That is all! As I am getting older, I am starting to realize I am becoming more of who I was as a kid – which is fearless, “daredevil” (meaning of my name), confident and genuinely happy because life has many reasons for all of us to be happy, you just have to notice the little things and be grateful for it. 🙂

Thank you for reading and let me know in the comments below what is one significant  thing you’ve learned in your life.

Until next time,

Ozzy

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December Spotify Playlist

December Spotify Playlist

Hey guys!

I am loving this month… something about this month and the holiday season is just so magical and calming.

Everyone is more giving and so much more loving it seems. The thing that helps out the most I believe is the holiday music! Of course, all the decorations help as well and if you live in a place where it snows, I feel like that helps a lot too. 🙂 As much as I do not like the cold, I can’t imagine Christmas season without snow!

I wanted to share my December playlist with you guys so you can get all joyful and warm fuzzy feelings inside with me! 🙂

Not all of the songs are Christmas/Holiday songs, but of course majority are.

Hope you guys enjoy them!

December Spotify Playlist:

  1. My Only Wish (This Year) – Britney Spears
  2. Christmas (Baby Please Come Home) – Michael Buble
  3. Mistletoe – Justin Bieber
  4. Last Christmas – Wham!
  5. Santa Baby – Eartha Kitt
  6. Never Say Never – Justin Bieber
  7. Santa Tell Me – Ariana Grande
  8. Female – Keith Urban
  9. Love on the Weekend – John Mayer
  10. Damage – PARTYNEXTDOOR
  11. Never Be the Same – Camila Cabello
  12. Bloodstream – Ed Sheeran
  13. All I Want For Christmas Is You – Mariah Carey
  14. Perfect Duet – Ed Sheeran & Beyonce
  15. Hallelujah – Pentatanix
  16. Emoji of a Wave – John Mayer
  17. Drummer Boy – Justin Bieber
  18. Diving (Vice Remix) – Bridgit Mendler
  19. It’s Beggining To Look A Lot Like Christmas – Michael Buble
  20. You’re Gonna Live Forever in Me – John Mayer
  21. Santa Claus Is Comin’ to Town – Mariah Carey

That’s it!

If you want to follow my Spotify December playlist, you can here.

I’m not sponsored by Spotify, but I did notice they have 3 months of premium for only $0.99 which is not bad at all. I pay $10 a month! You can pay $5 a month if you are a student 🙂

Hope everyone has an amazing holiday season with the people you love.

xoxo,

Ozzy

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Advice from a CEO

Advice From a CEO

About a year ago I had the chance to sit down and have breakfast with a CEO. It was one of the most inspiring meetings I’ve had, albeit, I was joined with 20 other folks, but it was still such a memorable experience!

To be that close to a person who’s had power and has done all that he can to drive himself to succeed was truly inspiring to be around. Our meeting was for about an hour and he did not get to answer all our questions. It was a bit disappointing, but of course I couldn’t let him go without answering my question, so I decided to email him after our meeting.

For privacy purposes, I will not disclose his name.

I love knowing and analyzing how people think and I saw this as a great opportunity. To be able to know how someone of his level got to where he is, I believe, great knowledge for all of us that aspire to achieve great things.

Daily Habits of the Successful…

Why are we all obsessed with the daily habits of the uber successful people? Well, for one, they must be doing something right if they are where they are, right? And for two, I think they think differently than most. I don’t truly think they are any different than us other than the fact that they think differently, take action and are resourceful.

So, what does that mean for you? It means you can replicate what they have done to come up with similar results to achieve your goals.

Advice from a CEO

Here’s the Advice From a CEO:

My Question – 

What would you tell your 20 something year old self now to be successful in the future?

His response –

Ozge,
 
It was great to meet you this morning as well, and get feedback from you and the group.
 
My advice to a 20 something is anything but theoretical as I have a 27, 25, 21 and 18 year old children…so here goes…
 
  • Do something you like and that you are interested in
  • Do it to the very best of your ability, performance in any organization matters
  • Try different things, particularly early in your career…don’t let yourself get stuck in a rut
  • Take career risk, don’t be afraid to jump into something that you are not fully qualified for, the most effective learning happens when you stretch yourself
  • Be a good teammate, make the people around you better…it will be noticed
  • Get a mentor
  • YOU are the CEO of your career, do not leave it for someone else to manage
  • Make sure you have balance in your life…family, friends, activities…your diversity as a person will make you a more effective employee
  • And Have fun along the way

I was shocked when he answered my email. He is, of course, a super busy man, but this proves you are never too busy or too high in power to answer other people and to be able to connect with others!

I think this is probably the best advice I have ever gotten, and I will treasure this forever as it fully relates to me personally.

This is What I’ve Made of His Advice:

Do Something You Like & That You Are Interested In & Do It To Your Best Ability.

This one seems to be a no-brainer, but in our 20’s we tend to be confused about what career path to take or in honesty what we actually really like doing. His advice allows us to keep trying to find it as it is achievable if you keep looking. Another quote or advice pops in my head as, ‘If you are not doing something you like, then you are wasting your time.’ Sometimes we can be so discouraged with life because we haven’t reached a position that seems to be what aligns with our values, and for that reason you should always experience new things and try something new repeatedly to grow your mind. Once you’ve found what you are passionate about, like he has said – do it to your best ability, it shows.

Do Different Things – Particularly Early In Your Career.

I also agree with this and strive for this for myself. I don’t want to wake up in 5 years to find out I did not diversify and try new things. I want to strive to always listen to exactly what my heart wants and to see what I can give back to this world. In order to do something you like, you need to try new things. There really is no other way to find out until you experiment it for yourself. Don’t be afraid to take risks, it’s where you will either find that it’s completely not what you want to do or it’s something that was exactly meant for you. You don’t lose either way. Don’t be afraid to fail. Les Brown always says, in order to do something you’ve never done, you have to become someone you’ve never been. To do this, you have to do step out of your comfort zone.

You Are Your Own CEO – Don’t Leave It For Someone Else To Manage.

My favorite point he made is that you are your own CEO of your career. The way I interpret is that you are your own CEO of how your life turns out. You have the steering wheel to control the results that unfold.  You should never let others control your direction nor tell you which way to go. You may be directed in many different directions, but you are in control of which ones you want to pursue. And as long as you listen to your heart, I believe you will never be redirected in the wrong path.

Diversify Yourself By Making Time For Others.

The other point he made is to diversify yourself by making time for people, family and friends is also something I’ve found to be very true. Whenever I spend more time with others I tend to not only grow more of a compassionate heart, but I also gain more skills and feel more connected to the world. You always learn something new when you spend time with others as we are all individuals that can bring forth something new and inspiring.

Be A Good Team Member, Make Others Better.

I feel that it is always important to leave with a good mark and you never know when those people will reappear in your life. Time is better spent when you spend it making other people better. Not that you should do anything with the intention of benefiting you, but it will come back to you in some way.

Take Risks & Don’t Be Afraid To Jump Into Something You Are Not Fully Qualified For.

I’ve heard this one repeatedly from various people – to jump into something that you are not fully ready for as it is where real growth lies. Whenever you feel that you are not growing in a career or being challenged that is when red signals should appear for you to leave and move on. You never want to feel like you are not growing, it’s not good for your brain nor your health. Why spend your life uninspired and not growing when you can feel so alive doing something that allows you to grow and pursue your passion every single day?

Lastly, Have Fun.

So simple, yet we always forget about this one. Sometimes you want something so bad that you forget about the present moment and how precious it is. The process sometimes can be the best part. The part where you figure yourself out, the part where you take action, take risks and where you step forth into the person you’ve never been before. It’s going to be exhilarating and scary all at the same time. Don’t waste your days wishing the moment you’ve been waiting for arrives – it’s already here. Have fun with it and enjoy your time during the process and never take yourself too seriously. The end result is only a fraction of the time you spend in your life, the most important part is who you become during that process and what you do with that time.


Thank you for reading. Hope this will help you as much as it has helped me and continues to help me. Whether you are in your 20’s or not, I believe we can all take something from this at any age. I know that I will.

Until next time,

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Plan for 2018

Plan For Your Future – 10 Questionnaires for 2018

A few years back, in college, I answered the following questions to figure out where I want to be and in simplest to plan for my future.

I ran across this questionnaire the other day and wanted to share it with you guys, so that you can also plan for your own future.

It’s nice to look back and see where my head was at in college and if I am still in the same path. One path that I did want to take actually did not work out but everything else was still exactly the same goals I have, which is interesting to analyze.

They say you are way more likely to make your dreams or what you want to achieve in life feasible if you write it down. So, why not, write it down and plan ahead. I did not make this printable as I want you to physically write it down — good ol’ paper and pen.

This will not take you too long and it will be a great tool to really understand yourself and to be able to take the small steps today to get to your goals for the coming year.

It could also be a way to take action on things that you’ve been putting off. I find when we see the big picture, sometimes we are more likely to be more motivated to go after what we want.

Here are the questions:

Choose 3 values you have and write them down.

  1. If you learned today that you only had 6 months to live, what would you do?
  2. What sort of work or activity gives you the greatest feeling of importance and satisfaction?
  3. What have you always wanted to but have been afraid to start?
  4. If you could make a big change in your life today, what would it be?
  5. What one great thing would you take action on if you knew that you could not fail?
  6. Choose 3 of each category:
    • Choose 3 most desired personal goals for yourself.
    • Choose 3 family & relationship goals.
    • Choose 3 career and business goals.
    • Choose 3 financial goals.
    • Choose 3 educational, personal and professional development goals.
    • Choose 3 social goals.
    • Choose 3 health goals.
  7. 10 goals you want to achieve in the next 12 months.
  8. If you were guaranteed success in one of your goals from above, which one would you choose?
  9. Is this goal consistent with your morals and values?
  10. What is one bad habit I will make sure to get rid of this year and not let me deter my process of achieving my number one goal?

That’s it! I wish I ran into my questionnaire earlier because I think this is important to do each year as things change and your goals need some adjustment.

The reason I want to start this in December is you are one month ahead of your goal-planning for the new year. It won’t come and hit you with a surprise when January strolls around. You have this month to really think it through and to figure out how you can take action. This is your month to start and implementing these habits and when January comes by, you’ll already be an expert of what you need to do!

Thank you for reading.

Sending much love and positive vibes your way. Hope you know all your dreams can come true because nothing is out of your limit – only you are your own limit.

Until next time,

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zodiac and moon signs

What is My Zodiac and Moon Sign?

Growing up, particularly in my high school years, I used to obsess over zodiac signs.

I found them to be intriguing and quite spot on. Or maybe I just had too much time on my hands as I wasn’t into sports nor felt like I had any other talents. Binge watching Lost got kind of old and I headed towards a different obsession and that was zodiac signs.

Many people don’t give zodiac signs the time of day because they think they are not real and are made up. Especially in high school, I felt like no one cared and there was little me trying to talk to people about it and no one cared. So, I decided to keep it to myself. Now, a lot of my friends are into it, I’m like really, you couldn’t have cared when I was obsessed with them!? Continue reading “What is My Zodiac and Moon Sign?”